ADHD Parenting Tips

Having an ADHD child can be challenging, from struggles at school to behavioral issues, ADHD kids can be a handful.  Parenting an ADHD child can feel like a constant battle of wills.  Here are some tips from the pros to help you navigate ADHD parenting!

1. Limited choices, but choices.  Many ADHD kids need to feel in control.  By offering them choices, they are still in control of the situation.  (Not too many, that can be overwhelming!)

2. Structure is a positive influence for ALL kids, but you will see a difference in your child if you maintain a regular schedule.  With routine and structure, a child knows what to expect and when, allowing them to be in control of themselves, and you to impose consequences!

3. Speaking of consequences… And consequences goes both ways! Reward positive behaviors, impose consequences for negative choices.  Keep your consequences the same, and remind them frequently, their brain moves on much quicker than most!

4. Stay positive. “I want you to pick up your toys now,” clearly defines your expectations and wants. “Don’t you dare forget to clean up!” has negative implications.  Clearly define what you want, not what you don’t want.

5. Be consistent! You cannot expect your kids to do as you say, and not as you do. Kids learn by example!

6. Small steps. Large tasks can seem overwhelming to a child that cannot stay focused long.  “Clean your room,” will get you maybe a tenth of the way there before your son or daughter is on to the next thing that caught their attention.  Keep it simple.  “Pick up your toys,” “Put your dishes in the sink.” Take big chores and tasks and break them down.

7. Have your house rules on display. A visual image helps them to remember, as well as gives you a frame of reference when needed. Make it fun!  They can help you design a poster to hang, which allows them to be a part of it.

8. MAKE TIME FOR YOU. I cannot stress that enough parents!!  When you feel that you are at a breaking point, remember that losing your patience will only frustrate an ADHD kid more! They panic because your expectations are no longer clear and concise.  Create a system where you alert your partner or another adult that you need to step away.  Remaining calm and in control is the way to get through to your ADHD child.  Remember, your child already may feel a loss of control.  Your loss of control is a recipe for chaos.  Step away, calm down.  Make sure at some point in your day you make down time for you too.  Bedtime, early morning, whatever works, but have some YOU time.

Back to School Savings

It’s back to school time again! So, tell me, anyone out there actually like the back to school dent in your budget and schedule? Me either. Take a look at some of these hacks to keep your money and your time well spent.

Uniforms go on clearance everywhere once the back to school craze ends! Buy more then, and buy a size up! You’ll be prepared for the rest of the school year. I buy all clothes for my family off season.  Stores need to get rid of merchandise not in season. Some stores go as high as 80% off.  Try department stores such as Macy’s and JC Penny, they have a big selection and name brands.

Save money and time! Use sites like Pinterest and allrecipes.com Type in “low cost crock pot recipes.” You now have the recipe for a healthy hot dinner on a budget with little effort!

Enjoy the movies but not the cost?  Use reward cards! They are worth it!  If you are near an AMC, get a stubs card.  Standard showings are $5 on Tuesdays, and you build rewards that can be used on anything, including concessions! Plus, you skip the line with VIP status. Check your local theaters for their offers!

The era of the app has replaced time consuming couponing. I don’t shop anywhere without downloading their app.  Many places offer a discount just for downloading it, and you will either receive coupons on your phone, or be able to collect points to reach an incentive.  Also, Google “promo codes” for online items, you can frequently get a coupon or free shipping.  Why spend money you don’t have to?

Look local first.  Use Facebook marketplace, Let Go, and other apps that help you find what you’re looking for in your neighborhood that someone else may not want!

Scrapbooks and photo albums are thoughtful gifts and cost little. From hand-painted champagne flutes, to a framed picture of my sons feet with a little poem in it, these are the gifts the touch the heart.  A dollar store trip for crossword books, warm socks, a teabag, and a coffee mug in a pretty basket is a great get well gift!

Download GoodRx.  It will price match medications at all pharmacies near you.  The last time I used it, I saved $40 on a prescription.

Use apps like Kayak, Priceline and (my favorite) Hotwire for travel needs.  It makes renting a car, booking a hotel room, booking a flight a low cost, time saving swipe on your phone.

Price match!  Almost all large retailers price match each other.  Target has a sale, but you don’t live near one? Pull up the ad on your phone and show the retailer, most will match it.